Make a Girl Orgasm
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It is a well known fact that most men couldn't make a girl orgasm if they had an instruction manual open by the bed. ALL of the girls i know have faked at least once in their sexual life, and quite frankly, we are all sick of making the effort and then telling you all how good you are.
So...
To make a girl orgasm, first you must understand that girls are not like men at all. Most men achieve orgasm through stimulation of the penis and can live quite happily without any foreplay whatsoever. Women are not like this. We need a good amount of stimulation before we can even properly enjoy penetration. So, here are some top tips for helping your girl to orgasm:
Seduce her mind The most sexualy ative organ in your body is your brain. Tell her what you want to do to her. Share your fantasies with her (However naughty or sick they are. Even if she doesn't like them, she will feel trusted and loved because you have shared them with her.) and in turn listen to hers. A girl will become more stimulated the more you talk to her about sex, so the longer you tease, the easier your job will be. Holding an erection for as long as you want, is quite nice, too.
Foreplay Yes, the bane of most men's lovelife. Yes, we know that you can preform from standing, but most of us can't. Try using your hands and mouth. Kissing her neck and caressing her breasts are always good places to start before you get to know what she likes. Light touches and stroking her body may seem boring to you but the feeling of exploration she will get will make it all worth it later on.
Pay attention to her Most men seem to think that the woman can be stimulated completely by the vagina. There are few things more uncomfortable than a man trying to stimulate an unlubricated vagina with his fingers (find more info at How To Finger A Girl). Try ignoring the vagina for once, and pay attention to the rest of her body.
Setting To a woman, the setting in which she has sex can be very important. If you are going for a romantic touch, candels, rose pettels, music and silk are all great options to go for. Yes, we know it's a cliché, but we love it anyway! It is always good to have the scene set for this sort of sex, there is nothing so fustrating as waiting while your partner rushes around looking for something to tie you up with.
Fantasies Acting out fantisies is a great way to stimulate your girl. However, just saying 'be a naughty nurse' or whatever you are into and then having perfectly normal sex can be a bit of a let down. Try using costumes, or if that is not an option, talk like your charcters and act like them. Do your foreplay in character too, and try not to lauch straight into sex. Set the scene and let yourself go. Don't be afraid of making a fool out of yourself, because chances are, she really won't care.
Dirty Talk Talking dirty to a girl can really make her horney. Every person has something called a 'trigger word' and most of us have more than one. This is a word that makes you feel particularly sexualy stimulated. Most of the time they are swear words, but they can also be anything from 'Slave' to 'Stalion'. Don't be afraid to tell your partner yours, and if you are too shy to ask for hers, listen when she talks dirty to you and the words she uses most will be her trigger words.
THAT'S IT??!! A woman wrote this?
No wonder most guys don't know how to give a woman an orgasm,...
or several!
You've got to speak up ladies.
Sorry girls but if you want the big O, you've got to explain better than this.
Ok guys. Here's the scoop.
First. Everything above is good......it just stopped before it really gave any real information.
Second. Go look at: [1] , [2] and some of the other articles in Wiki After Dark.
Third. PASSION, SHOW PASSION!! Treat her like you can't get enough of her and that you would eat her up if you could. Tell her how important she is to you. TELL HER! Tell her how much you love her and how didn't know you could feel so completely engulfed by another person. Tell her you feel like you both inhabit the same body when you're making love. Make love to her mind. Show her how much you love her. Did I mention PASSION? While you are kissing, weather softly and gently or like a lion on a gazelle, caressing, holding, squeezing, fondling etc, STOP.......look into her eyes deeply and tell her how much you F'ing LOVE HER!! Some women like soft and gentle, some like things more firm but touch them how they like to be touched while you are kissing. Softly stroke her while nuzzling and licking her neck, ears, shoulders, back, arms, armpits, stomach, sides, breasts, thighs, buttocks, knees, calves, ankles,feet and toes. Use your tongue, beard, lips fingertips, fingernails, feather duster or a makeup brush. Use your imagination and PLEASE HER!! If you are doing it correctly she will moan and twitch and sometimes tell you "that tickles too much". Tell her, gently, to grit her teeth if she has to but deal with it. FORGET ABOUT YOUR DICK!!!! It doesn't exist.........yet.
As you work your way back up from her toes don't miss a thing on the return trip but leave her vagina alone. Well, mostly alone. Let it know you're there and you're interested and that you'll get back to it and pay it your full attention,......a bit later. Tease her like this until she is almost begging you to make love to her. But you CAN'T!! You still don't have a penis!!
Now go down ever so slowly and gently spread her legs. Kiss, tongue and tickle her inner thighs, buttocks, tummy, betty button and right under her but cheeks with your tongue. Now work your way closer to her vagina maybe even stopping by for a kiss or light lick while passing by. Slowly pay more attention to that area. Lightly, ever so lightly, start touching her labia majora with your tongue and nibble a bit. Spread them and do the same on the inside. Now your getting somewhere.....and so is SHE! Slowly and lightly spread her wider and tickle her labia minora with your tongue and lips dropping a firm kiss from time to time. A little, very little, attention can be paid to her clitoris. It's right at the very top of the inner (small) lips. Lick above her clitoris. There are erogenous areas there too. Some women like soft and some hard but soft for now. Flick your tongue lightly back and forth from place to place. Surprise her nerve endings by not doing anything in a pattern but instead move all over leaving gaps in between untouched.
Now use your thumb to spread her vagina wide (comfortably) and lick from bottom to top in a full stroke from bottom to top. All the way to the top and when I say start at the "bottom" I mean the top (if she were standing) of the crack of the ass. Start there and slowly lick upward. Flick your tongue back and forth on the way back to the starting point. Keep this up and throw in some of your own tricks while doing it. Watch her body and listen to her. You'll know what floats her boat.
Now this part is a bit tricky but it's worth getting good at. Do you know what or where her "G" spot is? If you don't WIKI it. It's just inside the inner top of the opening of her vagina and goes in a couple of inches. A VERY important place to visit often. Now make an "O" out of your lips and place them around her vaginal opening making an airtight seal. She should be real wet by now. Suck out gently while inserting your tongue and arch your tongue upward while flicking it forward and backward. This will pull her inner vagina outward so you can get maximum penetration. She'll think your tongue is 5 inches long! That should get her back arching if it hasn't already. Do this for awhile (it's not easy to do for long unless you practice). Then get something, personally I like Ruth Westhiemers "errocilator" or a smallish "insertable that preferably vibrates and insert it into her vagina. Inside the upper walls right under her clitoris and going down the sides of her "G" spot there are what's called the " legs of the clitoris". ( I know, you women probably have never heard of them), anyway they are very sensitive by this point so point your preferred insertable, even a finger, toward her hip and up a bit. You'll know when you hit it. The wiring is all connected to the pleasure area. Play. Explore. See what she likes and doesn't like, ask her if you have too.
Now that you have something stimulating in her and are exciting those inner areas, go back outside and find the little man in the boat, her clitoris. Softly tickle it and her lips with your tongue and lips. Lightly at first but gradually increasing pressure if she's enjoying it. Just above her clitoris there are a set of muscles that surround her urethra. They aren't very sensitive until she is stimulated but if she's not stimulated by now, check for a pulse. Firmly work your tongue up the sides of those muscles or flick back and forth across them. Some women love this, some don't most don't even know about it. Work your way back down to her clitoris while continuing to explore inside. Flick it, lick it, suck it, slurp it or whatever she seems to respond best too. Sometimes I actually use my teeth (which they say to never do,, with my lip in between them and her clitoris, to keep the little bugger where I have full control of it. Blow on it. Blow cool air them warm breath. The "motorboat" is also a well received surprise. If you don't know what that is use your imagination.
By now you should have a pretty good idea of what she likes and most women would have had at least one orgasm by now. Keep it up. If you've done it correctly you've been there AT LEAST 45 minutes.
OK . Now it's your turn. Now you have a penis and it's probably so hard a cat couldn't scratch it and aching for some attention. Give it to her. In one unannounced movement Pull yourself up to her lips and kiss her like there's no tomorrow while inserting your long suffering member into her very stimulated very lubricated sheath. You know how she likes this part but try going in all the way a few times then STOPPING DEAD. Now "twitch" yourself inside her and begin moving ever so slightly in and out. Pull out until you are out then concentrate on the first 3 or 4 inches of the inside of her vagina with the head of your penis. I don't care if you've got 10 inches, just use 0 to 4. Pick up tempo gradually and every now and then sink it all the way. When you're both hotter than a 4 alarm fire insert completely and Grind your pubic area against hers so you stimulate her clitoris. Now you are , hopefully, both cookin'. Sometimes just doing that will cause her to climax again and if you grind (gently) in a small circle you can keep her orgasm going. Now it's your turn stud. Any time you're ready have your own finally. You've earned this one and both of you will feel great about it! Sometimes the feeling of having you shoot your man jam into her will turn her on and give her tet another orgasm so don't just roll over like a walrus, stay there. Move in and out of her gently, rythmicly and fluidly. Kiss her, hug her, caress her while you melt into each other and enjoy the afterglow.
There's more but this is good for starters.
This works best if you are deeply in love although the other parts will probably do the trick pretty well by themselves.
By the way ladies. With just a few minor anatomical changes, this works pretty well on us guys as well.
If anybody has a better way I'm all ears.
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